Fast Or Slow Insertion

[Guest Ptr]

I was at a sauna and saw this cute guy changing at the locker, I saw him looking at me too. Waited for him to bath and grabbed him into a room.

After some foreplay I started inserting into him (with condom) missionary style. Slowly slowly and slowly, I usually do this initial insertion slowly but he was urging me to insert faster.

My experience is that you can tell how often your partner have anal sex just by this initial insertion ritual.

a. Virgin or seldom fxxked btm: this stage is super painful and you will spend a lot of time just inserting. They will keep pushing you out and saying it is painful. Plenty of lube and must finger them to open their ass up.

b. Experienced btm : this stage may have slight discomfort for them, but they get over it fast. Cock in after a short while.

c. Expert and hungry btm : No need to be slow, they will be pulling you in instead like that dude I met in the sauna.

[TopChinese]

I was at a sauna and saw this cute guy changing at the locker, I saw him looking at me too. Waited for him to bath and grabbed him into a room.

After some foreplay I started inserting into him (with condom) missionary style. Slowly slowly and slowly, I usually do this initial insertion slowly but he was urging me to insert faster.

My experience is that you can tell how often your partner have anal sex just by this initial insertion ritual.

a. Virgin or seldom fxxked btm: this stage is super painful and you will spend a lot of time just inserting. They will keep pushing you out and saying it is painful. Plenty of lube and must finger them to open their ass up.

b. Experienced btm : this stage may have slight discomfort for them, but they get over it fast. Cock in after a short while.

c. Expert and hungry btm : No need to be slow, they will be pulling you in instead like that dude I met in the sauna.

A real good bottom will make you feel like you're fxxking a virgin even after all this time.

[Guest E4BF01]

I was at a sauna and saw this cute guy changing at the locker, I saw him looking at me too. Waited for him to bath and grabbed him into a room.

After some foreplay I started inserting into him (with condom) missionary style. Slowly slowly and slowly, I usually do this initial insertion slowly but he was urging me to insert faster.

My experience is that you can tell how often your partner have anal sex just by this initial insertion ritual.

c. Expert and hungry btm : No need to be slow, they will be pulling you in instead like that dude I met in the sauna.

Waaa hot man. Reminded me of same thing that happened about 3 months ago at Shogun. Was that you? I was the uncle with the meaty butts and nini, u said.

Yeah, I thought u were trying to tease me inserting so slow after u seem so want to rape me when u grabbed me. U make me hot yet u do like that is so torturing to me.

Okay lah now I know u call me c. Expert and hungry btm :cry

[oralb]

wouldnt the size of the top matters as well?

If the top is hung like a horse, even experienced btm also need it slow for adjustment.

[Guest Guest]

Would the big member guys like to share the experience from their vantage perspective.

Lasttime, a guy have pic that read WARNING : BIG COCK AHEAD. Trying "hard" to remember who is that dude. :whistle:

[Guest Xian29]

On 12/12/2008 at 8:46 AM, Guest Ptr said:

I was at a sauna and saw this cute guy changing at the locker, I saw him looking at me too. Waited for him to bath and grabbed him into a room.

After some foreplay I started inserting into him (with condom) missionary style. Slowly slowly and slowly, I usually do this initial insertion slowly but he was urging me to insert faster.

My experience is that you can tell how often your partner have anal sex just by this initial insertion ritual.

a. Virgin or seldom fxxked btm: this stage is super painful and you will spend a lot of time just inserting. They will keep pushing you out and saying it is painful. Plenty of lube and must finger them to open their ass up.

b. Experienced btm : this stage may have slight discomfort for them, but they get over it fast. Cock in after a short while.

c. Expert and hungry btm : No need to be slow, they will be pulling you in instead like that dude I met in the sauna.

 

Even though I had several experience, I always want to be entered very slow so that I can feel every inch of the cock as it goes in.

[fab]

On 12/12/2008 at 8:46 AM, Guest Ptr said:

Fast Or Slow Insertion

 

Depends on both sizes i.e. how big is yours now how tight is he, vice versa. 

 

 

[phewphew]

Did yall revive a chat from 2008 THIS IS AMAZING XD

[semb23chn]

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Edited August 21, 2022 by semb23chn

[repressednerd]

When my anus hasn't been used for a while, I like fast insertion. It's like a bull trying to quickly insert so that you won't escape.

 

For next round onwards, I like slow insertion. Can feel your anus stretching nicely to welcome the cock.

[krwan63]

I’ve had some experiences with some tops who would do this “technique”. They would insert the tip as quick as possible and then take it out, then slowly re-insert the entire length. Surprisingly, this minimises discomfort and makes it easier for the bottom  well for me at least haha

[Guest Hkl]

My matured partner always rush to push in his cock into my ass before it gets soft. 

So I always has to bear with the sharp pain at the beginning, but it is okay once the cock is wholly inside my ass

[upshot]

Just my personal POV, especially newbies just getting into anal sex and explain why and what you MIGHT experience with context and not romanticize the act. (And because I am still stuck at home )

 

It only makes sense if what I call 'intrusion pain' is craved, that's why some btm would want the TOP to start off with forced quick insertion during the first 1-2 min when invading your ass. heheh.. That's the time (unless you have had a few cocks in you earlier before him) your asshole's sphincter muscle is in it's 'normal' state (pre-sex) which is guarding shit from coming out of your rectum. It's an involuntary 'default' muscle state and primary function that can't be directly control it heh. It keeps shit  in and not EXPECT anything to come from outside to enter in.

 

So the moment your asshole sphincter muscle senses an intrusion from the outer opening trying to pry it open, depending on who you are, experience or inexperience (including virgins) btm wannabes, the experience will vary in state of emotions and physical reactions.

 

Experienced btm, sometime the initiate perception of pain is what thrills as that pain or 'pry open' sensation signals in their brain, a sexual imagery of a penile intrusion into their ass. It's a combine mental and physical assault of pleasure. The pain is interpreted as 'shiok' in their brain. And note, the degree of this 'pain' is hard to quantify. Its something you have to experience to know what that is for you. The sensation is borderline pain and mental fantasy of someone forcefully entering you, it can be almost orgasmic and get them to a euphoric state which can be hard to explain. Heh.

 

But there is another state of pain that even experienced btms (more common with inexperienced newbies and virgins) might scream and jump off or push their TOP off. That's when the asshole's sphincter muscle is caught off guard and react to the intrusion by going into a painful sharp cramp. An involuntary instinct to shut tight the opening. This painful cramp can last almost a whole minute or more. One would start to panic and curve up into a ball or freeze up as the sharp pain shoots up from their ass into their whole body. It takes a while for one to calm down, for the sphincter to slowly relax it grip and stop the cramping spasm. So painful that many who can not get over it develops a phobia and state of dread in their head. This makes some hate anal sex or do not like to bottom. This can still happen to me if I have not had sex for sometime because my ass would return to its 'default' state and function. I for one, either recover very quickly from years of conditioning or I precondition this, pre-sex, by inserting one lubed finger in to lube the interior and it triggers my mental state and stimulate the sensory nerves of my sphincter ring muscle to be less aggravated by invading object going in.

 

Below I explain in more detail the above solution I use as it may be applicable to inexperienced and virgin btms. Am sure there are others who might have other methods they use to help them have sex with less pain.

 

The solution is simple. You condition your butt for entry before you start anal sex for the first cock of the day/night. Using a well lube finger, you smear your ass entrance and slowly insert the tip of your finger in & out working in the lube in just inside the entry and around the rim. Keep doing this and progressively insert more and more of your finger inside your bum. This will not only lube but condition your asshole sphincter to accept the strange sensation of something going in, in slow increments. You still have to do this slowly as EVEN WITH A FINGER, if you jab in too fast the whole finger, it can trigger that painful sharp cramp. We are not born the same so some will get use to it quick and others longer. As you get use to this routine, this act in itself is a great foreplay for your btm partners. If you have a 'Serve-me-me-me-first' TOP lover, best you do this on your own before you let him in or meet him. Yes I know btms scarred by inconsiderable lovers. I have lovers do sleep with who got over this hurdle over time, so I know it can work. It's about conditioning the mind/body. Over time, it gets easier and for some who starts to get off on that bit of pain intrusion heheh. Usually once you've gotten 'conditioned' over those first few hard and fast thrusts of anal sex that night, any other lovers, if you are still up for it, (if you are one of those slutty queens or dream to be heheh) fuck you next, you don't need to worry that it will be back and will have no problem getting thrust hard because your asshole sphincter muscle has gotten use to the pounding and you're mentally enjoying it. The involuntarily muscle relaxes and will stay widen and not be triggered by all the in/out motion. The only exception are if you then complete the night's sex session by take on a big bull cock, bottle or a fist ..etc after that hehehe... that is a whole different story. You work your way up to bigger cocks or things, not the other way around. Doing so is diminishing returns hehehehe.. as smaller stuff will not make you shiok. Work your way up and it the 'shoikness' keeps getting better and better.

 

That is why you see some people saying they rather take a slow insertion when they begin the sex and hard thrusting later on as fucking progress. Because your asshole sphincter gets more relax and use to the intrusion with less resistance. At this point, some TOPS feel your hole seem loose. You are not loose, as per say but your hole now dilate easily and might gape. In porn, you see girls and guys who do anal sex with big cocks and they spot gaping assholes. That's a state of total relaxation of the sphincter ring muscle. Not everyone can make it gape though. I myself, can't even do that as much as I love to see that nasty hole in the mirror ...even after I took a big toy. I might be loose enough to place my finger inside my hole and feel no clamping down on my finger but not sight of my asshole with a gape. I wish I could. hahah So kinky and nasty. Anyway. So btm who fucked a bigger cock guy and is followed by others that night with smaller cocks, everyone after might think the btm has a loose hole. The sphincter ring muscle will tighten back. We're not born the same, some will close quicker and others over a day...but in any case, it's still tight enough to hold shit even after you finish sex lah.

 

Note, if you fucked every day for some reason you got so many lovers, Sphincter cramping will likely not take place given you doing it so often in a row. heh.

 

Hope this put some views into perspective for the uninitiated to anal sex. No BS but just get the meat and potatoes heheh

 

Note: If you want to feel tight-er and give your guy a good time, you can in one easy way and the other that require is a bit more work for you. First way is choice of lube. Water-base lube for example, the more you add inside your ass and his cock, the looser you feel. As it gets too slippery. The only part that can get tighten when you fuck, is the sphincter ring muscle that guard your asshole. Inside, past the sphincter ring, your rectum is like an intestinal tube, not much muscle that can expand and contract internally to grip the cock. So what make the sex feel 'tight' is the ring of muscle. So more watery a lube used, the looser the btm's bum feel. Using KY petroleum gel is more gritty and not so watery. Because of that, fucking a hole feels like less smooth and have more resistance sensation and thus it feels tighter. The problem with KY petroleum gel, it weakens the wall of condoms and cause breaks. So safe sex is an issue if with strangers especially.

 

The other way, you have to flex your sphincter muscle the whole time he is in you.(indirectly doing Kegel muscle workout) That is like cramping down your asshole ring of muscle to grip his cock shaft as he fuck you. I can tell you that is like running a marathon heheheh. Tighten and release can be good and TOPS will feel it but to keep doing it, and if you can, you will be pretty fit heheh.

 

Another way to help though unlikely .. never take so many cocks and keep wanting bigger and bigger heh. Cause once you have done bigger than normal (or toys), you will prefer those sizes more overtime than average ones that night. And if you go bigger like fisting big hands and larger stuff, there will be visible loosening of the ring muscles for sure to accommodate that act again. But overtime it will tighten again in a few hours to a day. But keep going bigger stuff and hope you don't need to wear diapers. But that is the trade off for those. I am not one of them. heheh. I know of 'fistees' who when you look at their asshole, it looks very normal if they had not have sex with you yet that day. But after he have had some nice session with a large fist or toy, it look slike it is disfigure. But it's temporary.

 

So like everything else, there are trade-offs to what you do to it down there. So be careful what you want and play safe. Pain as often as I mentioned that word, has very different meaning and intensity for different people. Same as those who are into padding their backside with a cricket bat or use of whip on themselves and feel a high from it. To each their own. We are all built differently thus experiment and see what floats your boat. Pace yourself and don't be afraid trying new experiences. You only have one body and one life. Treat it well.

 

 

Edited June 18, 2020 by upshot
typo and clarity