I Need Help With (Mostly) Anal Issues.. Would Much Appreciate Any Advice..

[StrikeEagle]

For guys into Anal Sex (whether as TOP or bottom), I highly encourage you to read this article which comes with diagrams and photos to describe the what is happening Anatomically during Anal Sex. Anal Anatomy

It answers some of the questions like :

If the bottom experiences pain during anal penetration,

What is causing his pain ? You are trying to force the "internal sphincter muscle" to open. The "internal sphincter muscle" is a set of involuntary muscle that the bottom cannot control unless he is relaxed. So get him to relax more before penetrating.

Why the bottom's ass feel sore ?

Not enough lubricant at the "Rectal Canal".

Why new bottom feel like shitting during anal ?

Usually the only sensation a person can feel in the "Rectum" is a sense of fullness and/or pressure against the walls of the rectum which initially feels like you have to take a shit. With experience the bottom begins to feel these as pleasant sensations.

For me knowing what is happening anatomically sure helps.

[skylancer]

Hmmm, thanks for ur info... :thumb: :thumb:

[yishun]

thanks alot, will show it to my bf

[Guest so many alternate sex position]

woosh. very good place. did you see the sex position page. http://gay.sexpositionspics.com/ cannot wait to try the alternate position at the the next fxxk :clap:

[Guest G-spot]

Had tried using my finger to reach the G-spot.Quite stimulating ,but tired.

Anyone got better method to share ?

[worldangel]

Had tried using my finger to reach the G-spot.Quite stimulating ,but tired.

Anyone got better method to share ?

hahaha, tired ? then use this ... what we already talked earlier, see below:

http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=493

[thaiboyz]

Yeah very informative, thanks.

I cant tell whether i have stimulated my partner's G spot or not, but he used to moan so loud everytime when i entered him. From the diagram, it indicated that inorder to hit the prostrate gland, the penis has to enter at a certain angle ? Hmm..i have not try that, normally i went in straight.

[GachiMuchi]

Just lift up both legs while you are inside and lower your butt.

Alternatively, you can prop him up with a pillow and enter him while you lower your butt, and pump forward.

You will certainly hit is spot.

Bear in mind that you have to face each other while doing the above.

Hehe. Have fun!!

[worldangel]

Here is another advice from expert in other thread to me and I just copied for your reading and action pls :

put the guy face down, enter his arse and move your body till cock is perpendicular to his body. u dun have to pump his arse but move yr body forward n back slowly. the cock will slide over his prostate.

face to face, open n raise his legs, enter his arse n move to same angle as above.

the key is to move yr body back n forth............... not so much in pumping into arse

prostate is abt 2 inches into arse hole. most cocks should reach it......... unless bum is huge or cock is way too short

but let's not forget that if cock cums within mins of entering hole, this is going to be very difficult

alternative will be doing 69 while each works the other's prostate with finger

one would feel like peeing when prostate is worked on, if you can withstand the feeling, u would start seeing semen oozing or shooting out

[thaiboyz]

one would feel like peeing when prostate is worked on, if you can withstand the feeling, u would start seeing semen oozing or shooting out

I experienced that when i fxxked my partner, he moaned alot and i realised there was huge amount of pre-cum at the tip of his penis and spread over on his stomach. Has i hit his G spot ? At first, i tot he had cum but he denied as he told me he did not reach his orgasm. Is it normal to have huge amount of pre-cum ?

[TopChinese]

Precum depends on the person.. some people pre-cum a lot... others like me don't. A lot of factors.. most uncut guys tend to pre-cum more. And also depends if you're doing a good job sucking the person. If he's dry like a desert and totally silent, you should improve your technique! :hat:

G-spots are also good if you're jacking him off.. try lubing your fingers and find the spot while he's jacking off. If you do it right, it will be the best cum he'll have all night. Just helped a buddy off last night with this technique after I fxxked him.... he was so crazy he actually hit the headboard and all over the pillow..

The g-spot is not a confirmed success one.. some btms find my massaging their g-spot with my cockhead a bit too "strong" for them.. and cannot "tahan" me reaching so deep. So please use accordingly to your btm's preference. :whistle:

Tops, try to vary your strokes. Too many local guys I think fxxk like energiser bunnies.. pump pump pump like there's no tomorrow. Take your time guys.... enjoy the ride. One trick that you could try if you're at least 6" and above, is to slide slowly in and out, make the btm feel EVERY inch of your cock sliding against his love canal. :clap:

[crazygolfer]

So far, I only managed to hit the G-spot of my partner 3 to 4 times, once I noticed that some amount of pre-cum on the tip of his penis. But not always able to hit it, don't know what was wrong? I think still learning, how to do it right?

[TNT]

once i met a guy with a slight curve in-wards dick giving me a heavenly fxxk which actually make me so high and i auto-cum with big load shooting over my head.... :oops:

[crazygolfer]

once i met a guy with a slight curve in-wards dick giving me a heavenly fxxk which actually make me so high and i auto-cum with big load shooting over my head.... :oops:

......... the curved in-wards dick means its position upwards (towards to tummy)once erected so it would 'hit' the G-spot, isn't it? And not the other way round.

[TNT]

once i met a guy with a slight curve in-wards dick giving me a heavenly fxxk which actually make me so high and i auto-cum with big load shooting over my head.... :oops:

......... the curved in-wards dick means its position upwards (towards to tummy)once erected so it would 'hit' the G-spot, isn't it? And not the other way round.

yes, curve towards the tummy.... so i really hit my g spot when he was really hard & horny :thumb: especially when i sit and rock on his 7" coxk :clap: :clap:

[Histonin]

Hi there guys. Around a month ago, my boyfriend and I tried anal sex. It was my first time. We both tried to relax each other first. He tried to finger me but after a while and some wiggling it really became quite painful. We stopped. And after that incident I've been getting these sudden sporadic sharp and painful aches in my rectum area. It's usually a few times a day, maybe at most five.

I thought that after a while the pains would go away, but they just simply wouldn't. To be honest, they started getting better after three weeks, but then I took my NAPFA and then it just came back with a vengeance. I called the oogachaga hotline around two weeks ago and was told that maybe it was some inflammation and that it wasn't much to worry about, but I think that one month of pain is quite a lot to worry about.

Because of our schedules, we can meet up only on Saturday and I was thinking of using that day to go to a clinic somewhere. However I couldn't find any gay-friendly clinics online (argh). The DSC one, which seems to be the most popular and well-known for gay patients, is closed on saturdays . Does anyone here know of any clinics my boyfriend and I could see for me? Any gay/gay-friendly doctors?

Also, I was wondering if anyone here would be willing to meet my boyfriend and I up, just for a short chat maybe over lunch/tea or something like that. I would like some advice on how to really make love properly and also chat about the gay experience in Singapore. Honestly, I'd really prefer having a gay couple come and see us, because for some reason it just seems better synergy-wise. You know.. Gay couple giving advice to another younger gay couple in a non-threatening situation? Singles are still just as welcome to meet us if anyone is able to meet! Please note though that this meeting might be subject to changes or even cancellation due to certain circumstances. In the meantime, just treat it as being open lah. It's always nice to get to know new friends.

If anyone has anything to say, be it about the clinic, meeting up or any other questions you may have, please reply (and PM me if you think it necessary)!

Thanks all!

[rotikawin]

He tried to finger me but after a while and some wiggling it really became quite painful. We stopped.

Jus wondering..i assume there was no deep penetration or excessive friction at all during your fingering session with BF/partner, so why is it that you must see a gay friendly doctor about the "anal pain"?

Are a worried about STD's?

Or are you planning to seek "sexual health" advice about anal sex?

Or are you discreet and am afraid that seeing a doctor about "anal pain" would expose that you are gay and a bottom?

[Baloo]

sorry to ask, but these are pertinent questions...

did your partner trim and file his fingernails before doing his insertion?

or he is the ladies fingernail type person? if so you are in for pain... fingernails can CUT the skin, hence big pain...

do you bleed when you move your bowels? i.e. pass motion, i.e. SHIT? if yes, could be result of the fingering, could also be other reasons why your hole hurts... piles?

fist timers should read extensively on how to finger/be fingered... use latex gloves and lube... once you are ok with that, then you move on to raw fingers...

ok this doesn't really help...

do go to DSC and have your hole examined... it's really discrete in the clinical sense... but go day time, weekdays... it wud be crowded tho...

[Guest Guest]

Jus wondering..i assume there was no deep penetration or excessive friction at all during your fingering session with BF/partner, so why is it that you must see a gay friendly doctor about the "anal pain"?

Are a worried about STD's?

Or are you planning to seek "sexual health" advice about anal sex?

Or are you discreet and am afraid that seeing a doctor about "anal pain" would expose that you are gay and a bottom?

No penetration. I wanted to see one because I was worried that when I tell the doctor about the stuff I was doing he would think me disgusting, and in my head it seemed as if the only person who'd really understand would be a gay/gay-friendly doctor. I'm also quite discreet about my sexuality for now and am quite afraid of being exposed (I think it'll change after NS and the government can't screw up that part of my life anymore). Maybe I'm being immature and incorrect. Am I?

No, not really worried about STDs. I don't have any STD symptoms except for ulcers (I don't know why but my body is quite weird). My boyfriend also doesn't have any symptoms and we're both a mostly monogamous couple (there was this one time my boyfriend had oral with another guy but that was a one off thing and he got no symptoms or anything out of that). I have done stuff with other guys before too but that was a loooong time ago.

I would also like "sexual health" advice about anal sex, because I really want to enjoy it and get the best I can from it.

Hope that answers your questions.

sorry to ask, but these are pertinent questions...

did your partner trim and file his fingernails before doing his insertion?

or he is the ladies fingernail type person? if so you are in for pain... fingernails can CUT the skin, hence big pain...

do you bleed when you move your bowels? i.e. pass motion, i.e. SHIT? if yes, could be result of the fingering, could also be other reasons why your hole hurts... piles?

fist timers should read extensively on how to finger/be fingered... use latex gloves and lube... once you are ok with that, then you move on to raw fingers...

ok this doesn't really help...

do go to DSC and have your hole examined... it's really discrete in the clinical sense... but go day time, weekdays... it wud be crowded tho...

Yes from what I remember his fingernails were trimmed.

Nope no blood whatsoever. Very normal shit.

But on weekdays, I'm not free. I must tell my parents where I'm going and all that crap when I don't go home for dinner. At least on the weekends when I say I'm going out for the whole day they usually won't question. Therefore I think that the only place to go is a clinic.

[Guest curious]

The DSC one, which seems to be the most popular and well-known for gay patients, is closed on saturdays . Does anyone here know of any clinics my boyfriend and I could see for me? Any gay/gay-friendly doctors?

The fingering and the aftermath pain happened ONE! month ago. If the pain is alarming and serious, why don't you take a day leave to DSC for examination. And, after one month you're still wait and see. I presume the pain is NOT! serious and you're also NOT! serious about seeing a doctor. What you actually want is to meet a guru/couple for gay sex tips. Hmmmmmm ...

[TopChinese]

PM me if you need to some referrals for gay friendly doctor... these doctors should know if there is something wrong.

[Histonin]

The fingering and the aftermath pain happened ONE! month ago. If the pain is alarming and serious, why don't you take a day leave to DSC for examination. And, after one month you're still wait and see. I presume the pain is NOT! serious and you're also NOT! serious about seeing a doctor. What you actually want is to meet a guru/couple for gay sex tips. Hmmmmmm ...

The pain's not serious, but it's really worrying. And I can't take a day off because I already just took one off, plus I'll have to tell my parents where I'm going. I'm also VERY serious about seeing a doctor and am planning to see one this Saturday already.

But I also do want to meet a guru/couple for gay sex tips. =P

[Jefzebel]

The pain's not serious, but it's really worrying. And I can't take a day off because I already just took one off, plus I'll have to tell my parents where I'm going. I'm also VERY serious about seeing a doctor and am planning to see one this Saturday already.

But I also do want to meet a guru/couple for gay sex tips. =P

I have to agree on DSC. Normal GP won't be able to help you out. The doctors in DSC are specialised. Do get treatment before you think of seeing a guru/couple for gay sex tips. Seriously, dude. It's for your own good.

[illumax]

Anal sex is really damned painful !!!....I had my first anal experience weeks ago and it wasn;t very enjoyable...the pain is unbearable....i kept screaming..and when the guy started to grind against me...the friction was too much for me to bear and i had to stop him....phew!....subsequently my asshole was sore...and i had slight bleeding for a few days when i shit.

Sigh..would like to have a more pleasurable anal sex and no ass sore afterwards...any advice?

[GachiMuchi]

1. Did your partner use lubricant?

2. Did he start small before introducing his dick?

3. Did you guys hv foreplay?

Without more info, it is hard to make out how to help u. It would be good if you give us an intro of both of u and a blow by blow account so we can advice accordingly.

[illumax]

1. Did your partner use lubricant? Yes, he did use lubricants

2. Did he start small before introducing his dick? No..he was big already.

3. Did you guys hv foreplay? Not much foreplay....but he licked my nipples to get me high during the intercourse.

Without more info, it is hard to make out how to help u. It would be good if you give us an intro of both of u and a blow by blow account so we can advice accordingly.

[GachiMuchi]

No wonder u screaming bloody murder because u r not ready for him. He is either inexperence or he is just thinking about himself. Anyway, how old is he and how old r u?

[Histonin]

No wonder u screaming bloody murder because u r not ready for him. He is either inexperence or he is just thinking about himself. Anyway, how old is he and how old r u?

Erm... The guy who answered wasn't me. Don't know why he chose to answer your questions for me..

But I think it's all down to proper lubrication and foreplay... Went to the doctor's. It's nothing to worry about and the pain'll eventually go away. So happy.

[TopChinese]

Pain is part & parcel of penetration, lubricant can only help to facilitate thew iitial penetration.

To really relief that pain, there is only way, that is to have more penetrations, anyhow this is a longer process. To speed up, use a butt plug starting from once a day with 1 or 2 hours duration, prolong the duration at your own descretion. Believe me, this is my personal experience to share.

If its painful, he's doing it wrong. Get dressed and see a better and more experienced top like Gachi Muchi or me.

[Guest Guest]

I can't stop you thinking in this manner, afterall you are top & not bottom, you will never understand the real issue.

I suggest you & GM do a role play as a bottom to appreciate the realism.

Larry, I laugh and take my hats off to you, well said and GM and Top Chin can give us all an inner view.

[illumax]

No wonder u screaming bloody murder because u r not ready for him. He is either inexperence or he is just thinking about himself. Anyway, how old is he and how old r u?

Does the age matters? He's older than me...tink he's in his early forties, while I'm ard 30yrs old.

[GachiMuchi]

Does the age matters? He's older than me...tink he's in his early forties, while I'm ard 30yrs old.

Better tell him to read more BW on How to be a good Top. For his age, he is certainly not inexperience, which means he may not be thinking for u but instead thinking for himself.

[castaway]

Pain is part & parcel of penetration, lubricant can only help to facilitate thew iitial penetration.

To really relief that pain, there is only way, that is to have more penetrations, anyhow this is a longer process. To speed up, use a butt plug starting from once a day with 1 or 2 hours duration, prolong the duration at your own descretion. Believe me, this is my personal experience to share.

I agree, it is always painful from begining. Once you don't feel painful anymore, it is called loose ass

I think fingering is one of ways to relief but of course, the TOP needs to know how to do it also.

Edited February 9, 2010 by castaway

[Guest Guest]

I agree, it is always painful from begining. Once you don't feel painful anymore, it is called loose ass

I think fingering is one of ways to relief but of course, the TOP needs to know how to do it also.

Only btms will know it is always painful at beginning. Tops never try so they don't know.

We all so afraid to become loose ass so even if not painful still must arrr errrr for the top to think we r not loose.

Good tops so few here sometime cannot find then have to buy or go Bangcock. Even buy also have to arrrr errr for the chinaman to enjoy if not they cannot hard.

[btm_dude]

ya... it's very painful when it comes to to 'open ass' moment. esp when your hole has not feed any dick for quite a long time.but you can always ask your top to go slowly on you when you know its gonna be unbearable. unless he is raping you haha. anw using lub to do some fingering first will be a good way for 'opening session'. do it yourself if you can cos you can best control e momentum. but dun do it for too long til your top is getting bored.

[space]

PM me if you need to some referrals for gay friendly doctor... these doctors should know if there is something wrong.

I need to see the gay doctor. Can u tell me? I stay west

[illumax]

Anal sex is really damned painful !!!....I had my first anal experience weeks ago and it wasn;t very enjoyable...the pain is unbearable....i kept screaming..and when the guy started to grind against me...the friction was too much for me to bear and i had to stop him....phew!....subsequently my asshole was sore...and i had slight bleeding for a few days when i shit.

Sigh..would like to have a more pleasurable anal sex and no ass sore afterwards...any advice?

I finally dare to have my second anal sex. This time is was not as painful as the first time....tink the Top used more lubricants and was more gentle....it was quite a nice experience for both me and the Top !

[Gary Yee]

i have a few painful anal experience as my partners didnt got me ready enough... but last night i meet a guy he is expert ..we have a long foreplay and slow sex.. we fxxked each other. When he fxxk me ..he got my really using lots of lube and finger.. as he push his cock in he masturbate my cock too... it is the best experiences..

btw his cock is big too...

[Guest gottcha]

I presume the pain is NOT! serious and you're also NOT! serious about seeing a doctor. What you actually want is to meet a guru/couple for gay sex tips. Hmmmmmm ...

hahaha... if you read correct, the histonin guy asks for a meet up wiuth a "younger" couple.... now, why younger if you are really asking for advice... he just wants a 4 sum lar...so obviuos...

[Guest guest]

hahaha... if you read correct, the histonin guy asks for a meet up wiuth a "younger" couple.... now, why younger if you are really asking for advice... he just wants a 4 sum lar...so obviuos...

I think you got it wrong lah.... he's saying it will be nice to have a more matured couple to give advice to a younger couple..... Well, that could still end up in a foursome. Hmmmmmm.....

[Guest Che Che Singapore]

Hello there,

Matured Monogamous Gay Couple in our mid 40s. Would you like us to give you advices?

[Guest surelyugessian]

anal sex can sometimes result in injury even for an experienced bottom.

this ah pek (retired teacher) who has a very loose hole one time after kanna screwed by me, said he bled profusely the morning next day.

sat in the toilet and the blood just went blat! all over the place.

he said he had to be admitted to hospital by his son.

then at the hospital, the doctor and the son discussed his condition, and kept looking at him at a funny way.

of course, he kanna had to answer some difficult questions what exactly he put into his anal, some normal shit never result in injury.

i didn't think i was that violent at all.....

but maybe he had some leftover inside which kanna pressed repeatedly against the wall of his anal, that's why there was a cut...

my current ah pek btm, i have been screwing without fail every sat afternoon for the last 4 years.

he always put the hose up his anal to flush out the shit, to make sure no hard objects inside when i screw.

if during screwing, there is still some shit, usually he went and put some more water again to flush out.

in hotel 81, the bathroom nearby, this is quite convenient.

sometime some water still not completely passed out, when i screw him, the warmed water coming out is very pleasurable.

but we end up making a big mess...

[Guest Jin]

Got into anal sex last week. It was a painful experience. I don't think i'll do it again

[hairy springroll]

Gd top gd foreplay = lesser pain

[Guest Dayrus]

I just had it last night. It was bloody and painful. I also passed some stool. So embarrasing.

[Carpenter]

So that feeling like shitting for first timer will pass n turn into something pleasurable? Like orange flavor candy that turn to strawberry flavo  after chewing it? Or it's still that same shitting feeling but people try to coop with it n think that shitting feeling is pleasurable feeling?

[killerwhale]

people who are inclined to bottom will get used to the feeling quickly.

 

plus, shitting and being fcuked are different feeling.... your shit does not move up and down at fast pace in your anal canal, do they?

 

oh, one more thing....this ancient thread has been revived....

[sum1outhere_03]

4 hours ago, killerwhale said:

oh, one more thing....this ancient thread has been revived....

Indeed, 10 years ago thread. lol.

 

In any case, for me, giving tips help too.

 

http://www.gaypopbuzz.com/how-to-ride-a-guy-for-gay-men-12-anal-master-tips/

Edited August 8, 2016 by sum1outhere_03

[cutejack]

Wanted to anal a young boy last week.made a mistake.finger him n

smell it which i never did b4.OMG

Faeces smell n cant enter him.feel

dirty.after his whole day at work n a malaysian guy.first malaysian guy i had fun n gave me a bad experience.lol

Edited August 8, 2016 by cutejack

[Guest Meh]

On 09/08/2016 at 0:36 AM, cutejack said:

Wanted to anal a young boy last week.made a mistake.finger him n

smell it which i never did b4.OMG

Faeces smell n cant enter him.feel

dirty.after his whole day at work n a malaysian guy.first malaysian guy i had fun n gave me a bad experience.lol

 

Very hard to find someone ready but they still allow to do it due to excitement. One time a met a someone from JB for BJ. He saw my nig dick and asked to fuck him. Of course I oblige. But after 3 deep strokes, he poop big time and scatterred all over me and the bed. It was a total mess and I even got nightmare. I can still imagining the stink for several days. Totally terrible encounter.