chapapa Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Something to think about...Top and btms, ask yourself this.Who is the one that normally initiates sex? t/b? Who is the one that lubes the btm? t/b?Who is the one that cleans up for the btm? t/b?To cuddles after sex? t/b?Here is mine views:(I am btm)Who is the one that normally initiates sex? Either Who is the one that lubes the btm? tWho is the one that cleans up for the btm? tTo cuddle after sex? bBut then in reality:Who is the one that normally initiates sex? Either Who is the one that lubes the btm? bWho is the one that cleans up for the btm? bTo cuddles after sex? tJust wanted to know if there is a silent rule like the top is supposed to clean the up the btm etc... not judging just want to hear comments and views. Do add if you have any other questions too! Will be good to get things out of the chest!Cause I feel it is confusing sometimes cause I don't know what they are thinking... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tokiwado Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 I m a top. Ans as per follow.EitherTTEither Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junxiang Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 My next question is "Who provide the condom and lub?"seems like everyone expect the other party to provide.what's the so call unwritten rule?another one :everyone want to meet but no place,expect others to have placebut yet refuse to travelheadache!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tokiwado Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Lol these pple, ask them to diy bah, so lazy! Lol Maybe next thing they do is be deadfish lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soxite Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 I always say I am a lazy top who likes an active bottom ... as in to take the initiative to seduce me ... I like the kind of feeling being seduce lor ... the rest all depends ... sometimes the btm will prefer to lube himself ... sometimes the top ... there is no hard and fast rule though there are some more common behaviours for top and bottom but not to be taken as the rule. Quote Trust is more important than monogamy. - Savage Garden, Affirmation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Nothing is cast in stone. If you are with someone in bed and both of you are horny and wants to enjoy the sex, who cares if top or bottom lube, clean you, etc. What is the point if u do all the preparation work but the sex sucks and vice versa.There will be a party that will be passive or active. If you feel like being active, then be active. If you feel that you want to be passive, then be passive and let the other party take charge. There is no right or wrong. Stop trying to expect or anticipate what your partner MUST do or MUST NOT do. Both of you are in the room, if the moods calls for you to lie on him after sex, just do it. It's between the 2 of you. If you feels like lubing yourself, then lube, etc. Why must there be 'rules' to govern how top or btm have sex? Too much 'thinking' during sex, kills the spontaneity and the fun. Just fxxk and enjoy the fxxking, stop second guessing! Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jayy Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) another one :everyone want to meet but no place,expect others to have placebut yet refuse to travelheadache!!!!Yes, alot of guys in SG have a warped sense of distance. The other party must be on the same block/floor as him. Anything 'further' than that is "too far". Edited November 2, 2010 by jayy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 (edited) i don't believe who should do this & that, but more to the characters of the person, is he selfish, tender & considerate enough, of cos the chemistry too, if i comfortable with the person, would like to hug him nude to sleep / rest on my chests after the session Edited November 2, 2010 by snowball Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junxiang Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 Yes, alot of guys in SG have a warped sense of distance. The other party must be on the same block/floor as him. Anything 'further' than that is "too far".Yes, and dun ever let him know that you drive and got place or he expect you to go fetch him to yr place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
junxiang Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 I always say I am a lazy top who likes an active bottom ... as in to take the initiative to seduce me ... I like the kind of feeling being seduce lor ... the rest all depends ... sometimes the btm will prefer to lube himself ... sometimes the top ... there is no hard and fast rule though there are some more common behaviours for top and bottom but not to be taken as the rule.talking about lazy top, u btms out there got any experiences with top who expect u to sit on him and fxxk yourself?dun be surprised he even sms while u are doing that.hahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 talking about lazy top, u btms out there got any experiences with top who expect u to sit on him and fxxk yourself?dun be surprised he even sms while u are doing that.hahahaI would normally playing with my i-phone "angry-bird" game while the btm sitting and sliding up and down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 The party who loves more will do any and every thing. Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ben Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 My bf just asked me to lube myself wet wet when he wanna fxxk. After he cum, he went to toilet pee and wash while I clean up my ass. After that he will come to cuddle me in the bed. We never thot of who should do what, this repeats every time we make love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 The party who loves more will do any and every thing.Agree. Who do chasing have to show he willing to do every thing.I am btm if got people chase then I must enjoy to become lazy and only enjoy his service. If he not happy then tell him never mind bye bye. Then he very scared But like marriage, when I like him become fb then he very active during sex, rim, lub, condom, pushing all he do. After sex I cleanup for him after he fxxked me. We don't want cuddle. Only drinking beer then bye bye. If he want 2nd round then he active on my body again. We never cuddle or kiss because don't want to too close. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acidtongue Posted November 2, 2010 Report Share Posted November 2, 2010 The party who loves more will do any and every thing.haha true. gorgeous btms i will not just help him lube up, but it will b a whole process of ass-worshipping starting with some hot rimming, then fingering with lots of lube when i'll massage his prostate as he sucks on my cock, before his ass is finally ready to receive my cock. not so gorgeous ones, i'll just get him to lube up himself hehe. And then 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lucaza Posted November 3, 2010 Report Share Posted November 3, 2010 Seems like u r a nice top.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Fit Uncle Posted November 4, 2010 Report Share Posted November 4, 2010 haha true. gorgeous btms i will not just help him lube up, but it will b a whole process of ass-worshipping starting with some hot rimming, then fingering with lots of lube when i'll massage his prostate as he sucks on my cock, before his ass is finally ready to receive my cock. not so gorgeous ones, i'll just get him to lube up himself hehe.Got chased by a young fit guy. Finally decided to give in though he was not my cup of tea and expected him to do most of the hard work.Well, he did very eagerly. Licking me from head to toe and massaging every inch of my body for a long time. For the good service, I finally opened my legs to let him lick my hole and get it wet ready for him to penetrate me. He got the message and was very thoughtful to lick and finger me for a long time to make sure I will not feel painful.Unfortunately for him as he rubbed his cock on my groin getting it ready to penetrate, suddenly he ejaculated on my thigh :oops: All that efforts wasted and he was so embarrassed that he quickly ran off. Felt so funny with my legs up and my hole well lubed and fingered and a pool of hot cum on my thigh, feeling left high and dry.By that time almost nobody left. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryuin Posted November 5, 2010 Report Share Posted November 5, 2010 i don't believe who should do this & that, but more to the characters of the person, is he selfish, tender & considerate enough, of cos the chemistry too, if i comfortable with the person, would like to hug him nude to sleep / rest on my chests after the session true true, i agree with this. its all about the chemistry i feel. and not about who do what. i mean different people have different ways of doing the same thing mah. and there isnt a ground rule on having sexs, cause if there was, then we will all be attending classes for it. =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kh87 Posted November 6, 2010 Report Share Posted November 6, 2010 hiya, this kind of thing, very subjective want.If the person look good and have good body, of coz some btm (like me), we will try to be more active than being like a dead fish. Lolx! :thumb: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FattChoy Posted June 1, 2021 Report Share Posted June 1, 2021 On 11/2/2010 at 9:26 AM, chapapa said: Something to think about... Top and btms, ask yourself this. Who is the one that normally initiates sex? t/b? Who is the one that lubes the btm? t/b? Who is the one that cleans up for the btm? t/b? To cuddles after sex? t/b? Here is mine views:(I am btm) Who is the one that normally initiates sex? Either Who is the one that lubes the btm? t Who is the one that cleans up for the btm? t To cuddle after sex? b But then in reality: Who is the one that normally initiates sex? Either Who is the one that lubes the btm? b Who is the one that cleans up for the btm? b To cuddles after sex? t Just wanted to know if there is a silent rule like the top is supposed to clean the up the btm etc... not judging just want to hear comments and views. Do add if you have any other questions too! Will be good to get things out of the chest! Cause I feel it is confusing sometimes cause I don't know what they are thinking... These days the millennials dun want to do anything except stare at their phone. The older one does everything. If two millennials, they'll just go sit in coffee shop and order expensive pumpkin spice latte and stare at phone. If at home, they'll just bc ape marijuana flavored while watching Netflix. What top what bottom, they don't even know how to socialize! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BudakFit Posted June 2, 2021 Report Share Posted June 2, 2021 Aiyo doesnt matter don't be so systematic...any roles can just help each other what is the big deal. Both got dicks....if you expect someone to do it all for you...change your penis to vagina....even women also help each other with men.... You need to remember it take 2 hands to claps....intiate etc... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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